I'm forty three, I had my three children and my youngest is on his way into his teenage years. My husband was already planning all of the fun we would have with just us. I was imagining a time when the only children in my home would be visiting grandchildren. But in the back of my mind, I knew that scenario might never happen.
Though, it may be said that all families are dysfunctional, it is better said that some are more dysfunctional then others. My family, the one I grew up in, is chock full of issues and many of the "issuers" love to act as if their actions don't effect anyone else.
So long story short we now have 2 new children in our family. They are my brother and his wife's birth children, but they are now mine. Fully adopted into our family and it seems that we are going for a new ride.
I am writing this blog for people like me who felt alone and burdened and victimized by the "system" and by relatives who should have had healthy boundaries and been willing to sacrifice for the ones they brought into the world. For grandparents, cousins, brothers and sisters who decide that they must do this for the good of innocent children so they can have hope that there is something better then what they started out with. To give them love and to build a new family. And for those same giving people who still are having to struggle with resentment and blame and denial and learning disabilities and attachment issues... The list is long, and yet we are trying constantly to show love and be at peace with the whole thing. It is hard. Sometimes there is doubt for me. There are so many versions of the truth, but for me the truth is what I live and see. So in this blog do not assume I see only the good in me and the "bad" in everyone else, what I do is state it in my perspective and through my journey of learning and healing.
I hope that this creates a place where you will feel a comradeship, a place of understanding you are not alone on your noble journey.
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